Life brings joy,sadness can't conquer.Life and love work hand-in-hand.With the birth of a new child,joy,wholesomeness,faith are hallowed in the air and in heavens.But without love,it may all seem meaningless.First day at school may bring about intrigue,excitment,passion a new way of life,but without love it may be a watse of time in the long run.Friendship may mean happiness,good times,fun,togetherness but without love,it's just an acquaintance.Relationships may mean intimacy,bonding,adaptation but without love,it's just lust.Love means to talk,listen,communicate,feel,learn inspite of other factors.A new born is love when you can listen to what it says and feel it,school is love when you learn,friendship is love when you talk and listen and a relationship is love based on basic utter communication.
"Life is love,Love is Communication!"
Vanessa Bitature
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Quarreling
It never was worth while,
So pack up your troubles in your old kit-bag,
And smile, smile, smile.
What's the point of quarreling ? Not worth at all . Just my 1cent opinion
Abstraction can be made by deliberating a characterictic or general quality on a specific objects or actual case. It brings out more clearly details, structure and even other aspects.
What can you see in the picture?
Messages vary in abstraction can be seen from a direct message. For example, the picture shows a car. It is a yellow car. A yellow Lamborghini car. And what more can you say about the car?
When you describe about the car, you will describe in a specific term that are concrete. In other words, people do describe things that appear direct in front of their eyes. Different images that come to their minds and thoughts will leads to an abstract term. It includes a specific purpose for effective messages.
We have all heard the phrase “I LOVE YOU”. I’m sure that all of you have said these 3 words before as a way of expressing your feelings to someone. Can you relate empathic listening to these 3 words?
People always use empathic listening in a conversation with a partner feeling like she or he is receiving a hug or share emotional pain. It sometimes leads to good relationships, emotional affection, and also happy marriages. And of course you can relate the phrase I LOVE YOU with empathic listening. For example, your boyfriend had just lost his dad. He’s having this conversation about his dad’s death with you. As he talks about his dad, his voice turn to fill with sadness and the conversation becomes more painful to him. In this situation, I’m sure that you will start comforting him right? You might say several words such as: "I understand what you’re going through. I feel your pain and also your great love for your dad. Be strong. I LOVE YOU." Knowing that you care and understand what he feels will make him feel better and at the same time, it will leads to good and strong relationship.
Furthermore, you have to be honest and effective when using empathic listening. Otherwise, it would be useless. You wouldn’t want to lie to your girlfriend or wife telling her how much u love her but you actually seeing other girl behind her back. This may leads to confusion and will damage your relationship.
Hence, don’t hurt people’s feelings and use your empathic listening wisely with each other.
we communicate with everyone, everytime, and everywhere. but most of the time we only get the obvious meaning that said by the speaker. in short, theres and an obvious meaning that you can derive from a literal reading of the words and sentences. unfortunately, most of the messages that we use in our every day life have more than one level of meaning. so, listening is very important for us to understand whether we should accept the surface meaning or the depth meaning.
lets see a situation where two friends are communicating :
sarah : jim, how do you like my new tops that i bought in sunway pyramid? jim : its nice sarah... sarah : oh...thank you jim....
at one of view, sarah's question has a clear meaning. but theres another important level, where sarah is asking jim to tell something positive about her new top. hence, this is what we learn as surface and depth listening. sadly, if we fail to engage in any of this listening method, it may lead us to miscommunication.
in regulating surface and depth listening, we have to follow some guidelines which sounds like this :
focusing on both verbal and nonverbal messages
listen for both content and relational messages
make special notes to refer back to the speaker
dont ever disregard the literal meaning of interpersonal messages
last but not least, we must always know ourselves to engage in surface and depth listening. we might not lnow the importance now, but when time comes we should be able to differentiate the meanings....
The first step in listening effectively is to recognize certain fallacies.The next step is to understand the process.Listening is a complex process because it is an integral part of the total communication process.
Firstly,speaking and writing (the sending parts of the communication process) are highly visible,and are more easily assessed than listening and reading (the receiving parts). And reading behavior is assessed much more frequently than listening behavior.For instance,we are more often tested on what we read than on what we hear.And when we are tested on material presented in a lecture,generally the lecture has been supplemented by readings.
Secondly,many of us are not willing to improve our listening skills.Much of this unwillingness results from our incomplete understanding of the process that could help show us how to improve.To understand the listening process,we must first define it.Through the years,alot definitions of listening have been proposed.Perhaps the most useful one defines listening as the process of receiving,attending,and understanding auditory messages;that is, messages transmitted through the medium of sound. Often, the steps of responding and remembering are also included.The process might be diagrammed as shown in figure 1.
The process moves through the first three steps;receiving,attending,understanding in sequence.Responding and/or remembering may or may not follow.For example,it may be desirable for the listener to respond immediately or to remember the message in order to respond at a later time.At most of the times,of course,no response (at least no verbal response) is required. And the act of remembering may or may not be necessary.For example,if someone tells you to “watch your step,” you have no need to remember the message after you have completed that step.
In symphatic listening,we care about other person and this is shown when we pay close attention and express our sorrow for their ills and happiness at their joys.When we are a symphatic listener,we can only feel sorry for others and we would not be able to put ourself in their situation.For example,if a teenager were told about a conflict between husbnand and wife,he/she can only be sorry about the matter and he/she could not exactly feel the same as the person who is affected.
Empathic Listening
Empathic listening is an organized listening and questioning technique,which helps us develop and enhance relationships through a stronger understanding of what is being conveyed both intellectually and emotionally.In a way,it helps us to take active listening techniques to a new level.Honest and effective use of empathic listening helps us to win the trust of team members,which helps us to find the root cause of certain problems.Sometimes,this ability to see people’s obvious behavior can make the difference between seeming harsh and unsympathetic on one hand,and on the other being humane and well-respected.When we listen empathetically,we go beyond sympathy to seek a truer understand how others are feeling. This requires excellent discrimination and close attention to the emotional signals.When we are being truly empathetic,we actually feel what they are feeling and put ourself in their situation.
Either it is emphatic or symphatic,listen patiently to what other people has to say,before you jump into conclusion.This is because if you were to interrupt other people who are talking,message may get distorted and this will eventually lead to relationship conflicts.
do we hear or do we listen?? i think this is a question that everyone should ask themselves. however this question cannot be answered by most of us, even me.
let us see a situation. assume that you are watching your favourite television program and your friend calls. this is when we can differenciate hearing and listening. and i think most of us do this also. altough you are on the phone, your consentrations are on the television. this is when you hear your friend but you listen to the television. so, see the difference? we may now realise that we do this often without us realising it.
hearing is similar to us breathing. this is because we dont even realise we are doing it. when we listen, we go through 5 different stages. these stages are important as we should notice and take notice of different things at the same time. for an example, you have to see the verbals and nonverbals, take notes, ask questions, identify, and get feedbacks. pretty complex isn't?
hearing could also lead us to miscommunication. this happens when we dont listen to the person who is speaking to us. if a offensive listening takes place we can see ourselves in miscommunication. offensive communication is when we hear only bits and pieces. most of us often do this when a particular lecture is boring or you are not interested on the topic which being discussed. so now we know not to do it.
to sum up, its always better to be a good communicator as well as good listener too. know when to hear and learn when to listen to avoid certain circumstances in the future...
Facebook,Twitter,Myspace.These and so many others are taking over cyber communication not only among teenagers,but also among adults for both social and business related issues.These internet hot spots have provided an avenue for age-mates and friends to link up no matter the distance between them and has also eased business transactions through easier publicity and contact with customers far away.
Through such networks one may in a way advertise oneself as one tries to get as many friends as possible by posting statements about themselves like 'I am a lovable,caring,funny person,' regardless of whether the statement is true or false,thus providing the opportunity for them to enjoy high self esteem even though it may not always be the case.
Social networks also help those who find it easier to express themselves more openly through writing.For example,on facebook there is a space where one may write what's on their ming at that moment.This helps releave people's minds of stress and deliver harsh messages in a relatively softer way.Through,social networks,the risk ofmiscommunication is also reduced to an extent because of the absence of non-verbal communication.However,miscommunication may occur when messages are not perceived correctly due to the lack of facial expression or voice tone.
Unfortunately,these networks are sometimes used wrongfully to damage people's reputations and hack into people's accounts to find out personal information about their enemies and so on.
Vanessa Bitature
Dancing is the art of moving one's body in a way that portrays a message,provides physical fitness and relaxation.Dancing has evolved over the centuries from the ballroom dancing of the 18th century and before to the more vigorous dancing today.In the early centuries,the dancing was quite peaceful as the gentlemen swirled the ladies gracefully over the floor.The dancers were also respectful of eachother as there was hardly any ogling from either party during the dancing.
On the other hand,the dancing today is not as peaceful.Dances such as hip hop are all about the complicated steps and ogling style.The types of songs danced to help this situations they are also violent or vulgar in nature.For example,the famous rapper Lil Wayne swears approximately fifteen times in his three minute songs.This kind of music affects its dancers as the will want to swear and be violent to attain the respect their role models feign to attract.
In another light,we see the more traditional dances.Because I am not very familiar with the dancing culture in Malaysia,I will focus on the African native dances of which I am more certain.African dances are performed to express feeling,celebrate or mourn.The Zulu dance among the South Africans is a celebration dance that is performed at wedding ceremonies,the inauguration of a new king or when a war is won.Another example is the Larakaraka dance among the Bagisu of Uganda that celebrates circumcission,thus the transition of a boy into a man.Finally,in Rwanda,the dance is performed basically to show off the beauty and grace of the ladies and the masculinity and agility among the men.
By and large,different dances tell differentmessages.The way we dance may help other determine what kind of personality we may possess.If one dances provocatively,throwing one's limbs in all possible directions the perception made by others about that person may be different from the one who dances feet glued to the ground and hands positioned squarely infront of them.
Vanessa Bitature
Self esteem means our opion about ourselves.High self esteem is a good opinion of ourself and low self esteem is a bad opinion of ourself.Your self esteem depends on many questions such as:
* Do you believe you are successful? * How do you see yourself (your self image)?
* How do you feel about your strengths and weaknesses? What is Low Self Esteem? -Low self esteem results from a poor self image.Your self image is based on how you see yourself. Do you think you are a good,reliable,hardworking,honest or friendly person?
-Low self esteem also depends on other factors like your job. For example,do you value the job you do? Does the job you have help you be happy with who you are?
-Low self esteem feeds your negative thinking and makes you believe negative comments others make. This can cause you to lose confidence so it is vital to end negative thoughts if you want to build your self esteem.
What is High Self Esteem? -High self esteem is the opposite of the above! If you have a high level of self esteem you will be confident, happy, highly motivated and have the right attitude to succeed.
The Importance of Self Esteem Self esteem is crucial and is a cornerstone of a positive attitude towards living. It is very important because it affects how you think, act and even how you relate to other people. It affects your potential to be successful. Low self esteem means poor confidence and that also causes negative thoughts which means that you are likely to give up easily rather than face challenges. In addition, it has a direct bearing on your happiness and wellbeing. Read more about why self esteem is important.
Self Esteem is the Key to your Happiness and Well-being -Building esteem is a first step towards your happiness and a better life. If you have low confidence or low self esteem you will find it impossible to be the person you could be and your happiness will be limited.
-Self esteem increases your confidence.If you have confidence you will respect yourself and then you can respect others,improve your relationships and become happier....this is not a selfish goal as you will contribute more and share yourself with the world and those around you.
-Low esteem causes depression, unhappiness, insecurity and low confidence. Other's desires may take preference over yours. Inner criticism, that nagging voice of disapproval inside you, causes you to stumble at every challenge and challenges seem impossible.
How to improve your esteem and confidence?
1.Face your fears - Challenges seem scary but your fears are usually exagerated. Facing your fears increases your confidence and boosts your esteem.
2.Forget your failures-learn from them. Avoid making the same mistakes again but don't limit yourself by assuming you failed before so you can't succeed this time.
3.Know what you want and ask for it.Learn about being assertive because you deserve your dreams to come true!
4.Reward yourself when you succeed.No-one else will!Isn't everything easier when you take time to help yourself? Make a list of your successes and focus on the positive things.
5.Talk- We often make assumptions about a situation or person which are not true. Your attitude and behaviour can be negatively affected so if you have any doubt or question,ask people and do not assume you know why or how.
Media literacy is an expanded information and communication skill that is responsive to the changing nature of information in our society.Like traditional literacy it includes the ability to both read (comprehend) and write (create,design,produce).Furthermore,media literacy moves from merely recognizing and comprehending information to the higher order of critical thinking skills as it implicit in questioning,analyzing and evaluating that information.Media literacy skill is important because most of the people get their information from television and pictures and thus we need a wider definition of what it means to be literate.
Most of us grow up hearing the proverbs like "never judge a book by it cover" and a "picture is Worth a thousand words".These words are becoming true today because of an age of computers and telecommunications.Today's technologies represent a surprising fusion of sight and sound that frequently make it difficult for us to diferentiate illusion from reality and fact from fiction.Special effects like those seen in movies like "JFK" and "Forrest Gump" merge the past with the present colour with black and white,the dead with the living and fact with fiction in such a way that the real truth can often be confused with the reel truth.
lt would be one thing if such technologies were employed only in the entertainment media, but increasingly these production values are evident in broadcast news.For example.a reporter in a TV studio is magically transported by computer onto the white house lawn.The mere location lends power,authority and therefore credence to the reporter and the story.This form of set decoration or window dressing is deceptive,especially when it is utilized during a program which is meant to provide us with factual information that we can rely upon.While such techniques may make the program more visually pleasing,they represent the emergence of infotainment and the decline of objective,neutral and reliable news.
Given these trends,responsible citizens need to possess the ability to question the accuracy and authenticity of information in all its forms.They need the ability to make reflective critical responses to this information. But media literacy is about more than just consuming information.A media literated individual is able to produce,create and communicate information in all it forms.As we approach the end of the 20th century,people will need the the information and communication skills necessary to live and work with multiple formats in the workplace and in their daily lives.Rather than simply typing print from page to screen,they will work with still and moving images, graphics and text. The organization and arrangement of these elements on the screen will require expertise in visual language and human perception.It will require individuals skilled in the design and display of information that is electronically produced,stored and accessed.
Smoking is a process for certain people who love to inhale and exhale hazardous substance from cigarettes, cigar or pipe. From my point of view, it can turn into a habit if you smoke regularly. It starts from being an occasional smoker at first but it may change into a habit.
Smoking can actually kill you. It is hazardous to your health and can damage your lung and heart. In addition, it is the most common cause of cancer. However, smokers didn’t think about the negative effects of smoking. It didn’t come to their mind that smoking can lead to a serious health threat.
Enjoy watching this video? Yes? No?
Well obviously your careless living by smoking will not only affect you, but also your friends and even worse, your family members. Do you want people you love to suffer just because of your careless or should I say stupid mistakes?
Children nowadays are being exposed to smoke. They feel that it is easy to communicate with the adult world by smoking. For example, your little brother is hanging out with his adult friend at the park and they’re having this conversation. . .
The adult friend: Hey bro! Why don’t you smoke with us?
Your little brother:I don’t smoke.
The adult friend: Whaaaatttt?!!! Smoking is good laahhh. You’re not cool lahh if you don’t smoke!
What do you think your little brother will say and do? His perception will probably change in any second right? In spite of this situation, children are weak because of the mistaken idea from the adult that smoking is a safe alternative to do. This leads to miscommunication. They didn’t even know that in reality, smoking cigarettes can greatly damage their health by deliver a large, addictive dose of nicotine. Children also want to try something that beyond their expectations by smoking just to be free from limitations and stereotypes.
So basically, we can conclude that the adult are the one who influence the children’s smoking behavior. They feel pressure not only from their friends, but also from their family who are smoking. In fact, parents should play the important role rather than to smoke in front of their children. If they do not take any serious precautions, their children may have the wrong interpretations about smoking in their life.
Let's talk about self-awareness! Have you ever wondered how conscious you are about yourself? Have you ever thought about who you are, what you want and why you want it? In this situation, you are the one directing your mind instead of letting it direct you. Well, a lot of people intend to clarify this situation but they do not know how to direct their thoughts wisely. Knowing our likes and dislikes, our strengths and weaknesses and even our own personality includes in self-awareness.
“Knowing others is wisdom, knowing your self is Enlightenment”
- Tao Tzu -
Self-awareness is also an essential for effective communication and interpersonal relations, as well as for developing empathy for others. Some people say that happiness is created through self-awareness. You yourself are the only one who can determine the thoughts you think, the words that come out of your mouth and the emotions you create. Even children nowadays can express their feelings through emotions.
As we can see, based on the video, Tan Hong Ming challenged himself to express his emotions of love and express emotions out of his reactions of fear. They didn’t even force him to express his feelings but yet, he’s the only one who wanted to express it and he can change what he believes in any second. Anyhow, by letting your mind express what you feel can actually change the possibilities in your life.
In conclusion, it is important to have self-awareness in life. By self-awareness, you will be able to understand and have the mentally to control over your thoughts and beliefs, also your expression of emotion.
Miscommunication is the misunderstanding and misconception of messages between two or more communicating parties.It may be caused by a number of reasons among others,not paying attention to what is being said therefore hearing differently from what is being said.This usually happens in the classroom where a daydreaming student does not pat attention to wat is being taught and so fails to understand the topic.Also,it occurs among defensive people who do not pay attention to the other party's argument but only listen out for what can be used against the speaker and so misunderstand the whole argument.
Secondly,miscommunication may be caused due to the lack of communication itself.For example,when a close friend does not speak to her friend the whole day,when she passes her in the hallway,she does not even shoot her a glance.In the mind of the mistreated friend,she thinks that she has offended her friend dearly in a way she is not aware of and yet actually,her friend,a poor communicator that she is is merely having a bad day and has not spoken to anyone the whole day.The lack of communication could lead to the creation of assumptions,most of which are false.
For me , yes i do this always .
When i think back to my first ever presentation in HELP , I feel so nervous and scare of my teacher . ( not specify teacher's name )
I think this happen to everybody , isn't it ?
Kay , what should you do if you talk in front of crowds ?
In my opinion , the perfect ways are .. ^_^
1)To calm yourself first .
2)You have to deal with yourself first before dealing with other things first .
3)Practice in front of mirror at home and your friends .
4)Understand what you want to talk .
5)Prepare yourself by surveying the room you are presenting at before your presentation.
i remember that day Mr.Murali let us watch movie in the class... i forget the name of movie but i only remember a character in the movie name "Manuel".. Manuel is a waiter in the hotel,but he can't speak english as well and he also can't understand english as well. Manuel do many funny action in the movie because he don't understand what his boss talking although he try to learn.
he had reflect myself... my english is very weak... this make me can't understand what topic my friends discuss... i always can't understand what lecturer teaching and talking... i always can't understand what knowlegde in the note or book... i always can't understand what kind of the question in the exam paper test about... i only can guess the meaning i don't know.... but i always guess wrong... and always do the wrong things... that is a big problem for me... we can't always receive the same message from the people who send a message... like Manuel misunderstand what his boss order him to do...
All argue and conflict happen because of misconceive or misunderstanding of message...
Hearing is accepting sound waves as they are being released but not perceiving them that makes the difference between listening and hearing.Listening is so much more than just watching someone's lips move and nodding your head subsequently,it is infact taking in the information,analysing it and evaluating its importance to you.This process may seem rather long and frustrating considering the large amounts of information that we have to take in within such little time spacings.In contrrary,the time to analyse and evaluate information is sufficient as the speed at which the the mouth lets out words is slower than the speed at which the mind takes in the information so the extra time,if one takes great care not to waste time can be used to perceive the information correctly.Vanessa Bitature
Self disclosure is telling of information which are hidden about yourself to others. Meaningfulness of relationships, physiological health, self-knowledge, communication effectiveness and ability to cope. Once something is said, you can't take it back. In other words, self-disclosure is a communication method in which person share information with others. Information include: Information about yourself, family, hobbies, emotions and believes. This method can improve relationship, and also understand in face to face communication.
There are a few advantages and disadvantages of self-disclosure.
ADVANTAGES
~ Allows yourself to be free from any conformation
~ There is a high chance that people might like you for who you are; the carefree type of a person
~ Your level of confidence will increase
DISADVANTAGES
~ The main disadvantage about this approach is that other people will know about you weakness and they might exploit that. Keep in mind that communication means sharing of knowledge from both sides. So in this way of communication let other speak and share his point of view before you do.
~ No offense, but personally, I think that people who expose too much about themselves appear to be desperate.
Life is all about balance. Just because you want somebody to accept you as who you are, it does not mean that you have to reveal your deepest darkest secret to someone. But at the same time, do not make your life revolves around you only. Do not keep everything to yourself because it is always nice to share a little bit about your life with someone else. =)
The word "leadership" simply means the ability to motivate a group of people toward a common goal. A leader is someone whom others consistently look up to for guidance and advice. Being a leader is not just a responsibility, but it is also an honor. The following are essential steps in becoming a successful leader.
Solve problems. Yes, solve. NOT CREATE! Before jumping to conclusions, observe the situation carefully and listen attentively to what your subordinates have to say. Try your best to avoid any hasty generalization as it may bring the feeling of dissatisfaction to the other group members.
Think of the BIG picture. It is a norm for some people to waste most of their time on something that is not so important. For instance, as a lecturer, it is more important for you to make sure your students understand the materials that you are teaching very well, rather than thinking hard on what to wear to class that morning.
Be active. Don't be a lazy bump. Instead, try to be a hands-on leader. Just because you are a leader, it does not mean that you get to do less work. A good leader will not even think of the "sit back, relax and enjoy" phrase.
Remember that it is not all about you. Always keep in mind that without your teammates or subordinates, whatever project that you are doing WILL NOT succeed. In another words, they are your "tulang belakang" (Translation to English : backbone). So, appreciate them. Smile at them. Laugh even when their jokes are not so funny. Treat them for lunch. Anything that will put a smile on their face. =)
"A leader is best when people barely know s/he exists, when his/her work is done, his/her aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves."
Most of the human beings go through this very important and crucial step in being able to communicate. Intra means self, getting personal with ourself.Intellectually,intrapersonal communications is our thoughts and conversations with ourselves.We all know that we must be able to communicate with ourself first before we can communicate with others.However in today's society,we are not encouraged to talk to ourselves.There is almost a stigmatism that a person is some how not ok if he or she is talking himself or herself.The irony is that,all successful peoples in the world,who succeed and achieve their dreams and desires,is the one whom talk to themselves.For example,when you tell yourself what you desire and see the image in your mind,you are bringing clarity to your desire.Many people have stated that much of their stress in life is from a feeling of not having any control of their life.The essential step in gaining control is getting a clear understanding with ourself,on what we want.Then we must be able to figure out the details of that desire and the steps necessary to achieve it.We will then be able to communicate with others what our wish and desires are.This will enable us to attract to what we need,to go where we want to head.It is important to remember that to achieve what we want in life is to master communication in order to master wealth and vice versa.
I find that mastering intrapersonal skills can be challenging for many people.For instance,some women feel that it is not right to think about theirselves and that they should think about others first.The thing is,we cannot truly look after others until we take care of ourselves.Men,on the other hand,will say that "i do not have time for all this talking-to-ourself-tingy".On a deeper level,many are afraid of looking at what they want or desire.There is a fear of disappointment, not being able to do it or even of succeeding and what that might mean.There are many ways through the process of discovery and of finding the path to what you desire. The first step is just to begin.Start writing in a journal on the things you want in life and build on it from there.
By writing,a person know what they want and how to go for it so their success is almost assured.Their communication skills with themselves are practiced and followed through on.I have also noticed that people who don't speak with themselves,will just quickly make a new years resolution and then forget about it.There is no clarity or details on what it is or how it will happen. There is no emotion or desire driving them towards it. Then another year goes by and they sit and wonder why hasn't anything changed.In a nutshell,we must start talking with ourselves today and really get to know ourself on a more personal level.
I believe that books only supply raw materials for learning purposes.After facts are learned,they need to be interpreted.Discussions with others often helps to remove misconceptions and frequently provides a solution to some difficulty that has been holding us up.It can give you a fresh viewpoint and a fresh impetus to study.The act of communicating and explaining your work to others can serve to clarify your own thoughts.There is no doubt that it is admirable to solve your difficulties without the help from others,but an unwilingness to discuss with others is one of the less desirable characteristics.The tradition of invidual work is strong in our educational system and students are not encouraged to talk to each other or work together.In general,the individual is expected to learn to rise or fall by his own efforts,and is not required to co-operate with others or to help them.In the 'traditonal education' system,teacher or lecturer speaks and the class listens.This indicates that communication is all one way and will result in boredom and lack of interest in students.
When you are at work alongside others,speed of work will increase.They will also stimulates motives and interests.Some tasks are carried out more naturally and more efficiently by more than one person. Furthermore,in study,group discussion is useful as a method of solving problems as in enabling facts and theories to be brought into perspective.When we work in a group,we will get to share ideas with others n will have a better picture about a certain topic.The various form of group work lead to more active participation in studies.Active participation not only generates interests,but leads to better long-term retention.In problem,solving,groups are more accurate then individuals because they make more suggestions,and are quicker to reject incorrect ideas.
The first chapter we learn is about "The Essentials of Human Communication" before i study this subject,i have many question,why we need to study human com? we communication all the time,but that is not easy to let others understand what we communication about... that's why argue always happen...
we need to study many communication skill to learn how to communication with other people... i confuse with intrapersonal and interpersonal communication before the lecture... after the lecture,i have some idea with this two type of communication:
intrapersonal communication means we communication with ourself. i try to know the things about myself.... actually i always don't know what i am thinking... i also always confuse why and what am i doing.....
interpersonal communication means we communication with other people arround us. we can built relationship with communication, we can know the difference idea from other people, we can sharing information or knowlegde with our friends, we can also make conflict with communication.
Example: we learn friend with communication, we share anything we like with our friends, we talk any topic with our friends as we like; in contrast, we also will make enemy if other people misundersanding what we talk about, maybe what we talk or actions will offend other people but we don't know.
in real life,we always face communication problem with friends,family,lecturer or other people arround us. although sometime we talking a good thing but maybe that's a bad news for other people. this all because of a simple reason: talk by us, heard by others.
Friend: A person whom one knows, trust or even like.
I’m sure that all of you want a good qualities and understanding behavior to look for in a friend. However, it is not easy getting to know a person if you have difficulty in making friends.
For example, Nicole Richie is one of Paris’s Hilton best friends. They’ve known each other for a quite long time. However, there’s the time when everything’s going upside down and they can’t handle their friendship. There’s this one incident where Paris wanted a double wedding with Nicole but it didn’t happen. The situation occurs when Good Charlotte rocker Benji Madden was dating Paris last time while Nicole is engaged with Madden’s brother Joel. Paris wanted to have a double wedding with her best friend Nicole but she is not even engaged to Benji. One of the news writer said Paris thinks that she could rake in millions by the wedding and to do it in order to sell the pictures. In addition, she said if she had a child maybe a daughter, she wanted to give her daughter’s name a twisted version of Nicole daughter’s name which is "Summer Harlow". Nicole was so upset with Paris being so annoying and decided to end their friendship. But, Paris rep says "It was not true and whatsoever."
Basically from the situation, we can conclude that to have a positive relationship, ask yourself first, ‘how well do you know that person?’ and‘does she or he understand you well enough or you yourself understand them well enough?’ Understand people’s feelings are the most important things that will manage a good relationship. Choose a person wisely that can connect with you through joyful times, sadness, or even madness.
Once you truly know that person, it will be easy for you to diminish a chance knowing other person who causes you pain and torture you in the future. Don’t make assumptions without knowing that person. This may cause bad implications and arguments in the relationship. Spending some time with that person to communicate would be a nice thing to do and it enables us to see the other sides of that person. Trust your instinct and be positive towards your relationship.
do you agree with my title?? i bet you do. somehow or rather, when i hear non-verbal communication(nvc), this title struck my mind. talking about nvc, it can be communicated via gesture, body language, posture, eye contact or even facial expression. interesting isn't it? for example, couples who fall in love does not communicate first, but they have eye contact and body language. from this they know whether the person like him or her. besides that, starting a conversation can be hard for some people. 'starting problem' they would say. the simple tips is that, give an eye contact. see the response and take further action. for me, its as simple as that. according to my title, love is not only blind its also speechless. we wonder why some of them end up in breaking up. maybe its because they misinterpret the nvc. so think before you act!!! GOOD LUCK!!
Confident can be defined as being positive in yourself or having strong belief on your own abilities. It is crucial to be confident to have an effective communication especially for students as they may need to develop knowledge inpublic speaking, debating, presentation skills and etc.
In order to be confident, you must have positive thoughts to create and deliver high impact in communication. Thus, it can lead us to deliver powerful presentations with an excellent pronunciation as it expels those nerves and fears in individuals.
In some directly situations, whether you are a student asking questions to lecturers or friends, a professional graduated interviewing for your first job or even a professor giving a presentation, the ability to communicate effectively with confidence is vital to your success.
So starting from today, be Confidence in who you are in any situation!
SMS is a form of communication through media technology using hand phones.In my opinion,SMS is a form of non verbal communication rather than verbal communication.
Firstly,messages sent via SMS do not involve direct speech by hearing one's voice during the conversation,thus non verbal.Despite this,it is possible to determine the facial expressions on one's face and the voice tone by reading a text message.
Also,through an SMS one can convey a number of messages from the formal business transition to the more emotional message that may require some expressions,thus qualifying it to be a form of non-verbal communication.For example,a text as follows was sent from an estranged father to his daughter:'My dearest girl,how are you?I miss you so much and i long everyday to see you once again.I do miss you unbearably and love you with all my heart and being.Please take care of yourself and remember that I will always love you.Love,Dad.'
From the above message,it is possible to tell the emotion and passion that the father has for his for his daughter no matter the reason for which he is estranged.Therefore,SMS is a form of non evrbal communication because the normal sending and receiving of messages despite the lack of voice exchange.Vanessa Bitature
