We have all heard the phrase “I LOVE YOU”. I’m sure that all of you have said these 3 words before as a way of expressing your feelings to someone. Can you relate empathic listening to these 3 words?
People always use empathic listening in a conversation with a partner feeling like she or he is receiving a hug or share emotional pain. It sometimes leads to good relationships, emotional affection, and also happy marriages. And of course you can relate the phrase I LOVE YOU with empathic listening. For example, your boyfriend had just lost his dad. He’s having this conversation about his dad’s death with you. As he talks about his dad, his voice turn to fill with sadness and the conversation becomes more painful to him. In this situation, I’m sure that you will start comforting him right? You might say several words such as: "I understand what you’re going through. I feel your pain and also your great love for your dad. Be strong. I LOVE YOU." Knowing that you care and understand what he feels will make him feel better and at the same time, it will leads to good and strong relationship.
Furthermore, you have to be honest and effective when using empathic listening. Otherwise, it would be useless. You wouldn’t want to lie to your girlfriend or wife telling her how much u love her but you actually seeing other girl behind her back. This may leads to confusion and will damage your relationship.
Hence, don’t hurt people’s feelings and use your empathic listening wisely with each other.
By: Nadia binti Wahid
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